Welcome to our book club, where today, we're diving into Should I Stay or Should I Go by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. In Chapter 2, "Narcissism is the New Black," Dr. Durvasula unpacks a topic that can transform how you see yourself and your relationships. If you’re a people-pleaser who often finds yourself feeling drained, confused, or questioning your worth in relationships, this is for you.

What Is Narcissism?

Dr. Durvasula explains that narcissism isn’t just excessive self-confidence—it’s a disorder of superficiality. It’s characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a deep need for admiration, and a significant lack of empathy.

Narcissists can be incredibly alluring, often appearing confident, intelligent, and successful. But beneath that shiny exterior lies a vulnerable self-esteem that constantly seeks external validation. They thrive on "love lite" experiences—exciting and validating at first but ultimately shallow and unfulfilling.

Why People-Pleasers Are Vulnerable

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